Silence is Golden
My Pastor gave some of the greatest advice in a sermon one Sunday. He said, “If you’re having trouble finding the words to say, maybe the Holy Spirit is trying to tell you to not say anything.” It’s great encouragement for someone like me, who always feels he has to have the perfect response in every situation.
In marriage, my wife helps me remember this. Sometimes she just needs to be heard and understood. She doesn’t need me to fix anything. She doesn’t need me to work through the logistics of the situation. She doesn’t need answers. She just needs me to feel with her, to hurt, to laugh, to be present. Though contrary to my natural tendencies, deep, meaningful connection is made when I stop and just listen.
Have you ever talked to someone who was at a spiritual roadblock in their life, questioning God (His will, His ways, His existence)? Whether the product of a recent disappointment or a lifetime of contrary beliefs, their questions and doubts are real. It’s OK to not have all the answers. It’s OK to allow the silence to be awkward. God speaks in those moments. Sometimes your presence is much more powerful than your words.